Due to our sophisticated cultural and moral values, oral sekz is often viewed by many as indecent and unhygienic act. Some even see it as evil. For some believers, the mere mentioning of oral sekz generates a deep negative connotation for them.
Oral sex involves using your mouth to stimulate another person’s genitals. Thus, licking a woman’s vaGIna or sucking a man’s pEnIs. Regardless of how oral sekz is openly criticized and condemned, it is believed to be practiced by both believers and non believers behind close doors. The fact is that some people like oral sex, and others don’t. Some people like giving oral sex but don’t like getting it. Some like getting it but not giving it. All of this is totally fine and normal — it’s up to you to decide what you’re comfortable with, and let your partner know.
While you can’t get pregnant from oral sex, you stand a higher risk of getting STDs through oral sex if you fail to protect yourself. This is why some health promoters crusade against it.
Against all the negativities said about Oral Sekz, some experts also believe that the stigma surrounding Oral sekz is absolutely misplaced.
Belah Rose indicated in her article on the subject under review that, Oral Sekz has the tendency to revive lukewarm partners to become passionate lovers.
For the huge reasons below, we also think that oral sex should be celebrated rather than shamed.
1. It Makes Him Feel Like a King.
Your husband has dreams of conquest and adventure. His little boy ambitions of slaying dragons and saving the day are still in his heart. He wants to win on the field, at the poker table, in his business, or any other place his spirit can thrive.
When you serve him this way, his “winning meter” goes way up. You serve him in his most intimate place. You meet a deep and vulnerable desire. When you choose to learn exactly what he craves and serve him happily and enthusiastically, you make him feel manly, sexy, and powerful.
2. It Helps Meet His Emotional Needs.
Our husbands love us through sex. Due to health reasons, my husband and I went through a season where we couldn’t make love. I remember asking him how he was feeling about it. After some prodding, he genuinely shared he felt like he couldn’t “love me as deeply” without making love to me.
Your husband’s need for sex is not wrong. On the contrary it is part of God’s plan. The sexual experience fills him in the areas of his heart that can be filled no other way. God designed sex to draw a couple together in unity like nothing else can. With a healthy diet of generous sex in a marriage, he feels emotionally satisfied.
3. It Frees Him From Distractions and Temptation.
Men are visual creatures. They just are. Women’s clothing styles accentuate curves, “assets”, and beauty because that is what is attractive to men. Men’s clothing styles are much more modest, looser, and practical because women care a lot less about such visuals. When you are intimate with your hubby and give him lots of sensual views, you satisfy his need. He feels more able to control thoughts and wandering eyes because he is satisfied by you. (FYI – this isn’t just my idea. See 1 Corinthians 7:5 where Paul instructs married couples not to abstain from sex, except maybe short periods. He warns that this deprivation can make these couples prone to temptation outside the marriage.)
I encourage giving him a seductive dance, strip show, or wearing sexy lingerie to start things off. Your curves excite him in ways that do nothing for you. Even if you don’t feel sexy in the moment (you may feel downright ridiculous actually), but he appreciates your body and your ways of enticing him. Everyone has insecurities about their bodies, but don’t let that hold you back from giving him the ecstasy he so desires. Trust me, you’re more sexy than you think you are!
4. You (Might) Get More Done Around The House.
It’s true. When I serve my husband in this way more regularly, the trash gets taken out, the dishes get done, and I do a lot less housework. (We can let this be our little secret). Unfortunately, this is not a guaranteed benefit. But I bet you would be surprised what your hubby suddenly feels motivated to do when you are giving generously in this important area.
5. Make Him Fall In Love With You All Over Again… and Again… and Again…
Remember the early days of your marriage, when sex was so frequent you were going at it like donkeys in spring? Those days can come again with a jolt of enthusiasm from you. Push through the possible discomfort you may feel, learn what you need to, forgive the past, get over your insecurities, and surprise him with an amazing oral experience. He will be deeply grateful and feel like he’s the luckiest man alive… because he is!
6. It’s a Great Foundation to Much More Discovery and Pleasure.
Though there are other areas of marital intimacy that we could focus on, I specifically focus on giving him oral because it provides a foundational understanding. When a wife is confident, enthusiastically sensual, and understands how her husband’s member works through oral sex, she has all the tools to discover many other intimate pleasures. Once you master the principles of his mind, his body, and yours, your creativity is the only limit to what your sex life can become. A great sex life makes for a great marriage and a great life.
7. It’s Budget-Friendly Fun!
No need to pull out the credit card for this one!You can make any occasion very special for him by including oral sex. Consider waking him up with this savory treat. Or take a shower together before a big event–after the suds are cleared, drop down and give him a fresh thrill. At the event, it’ll be fun to steal knowing glances at each other. Why not congratulate him on a promotion with a 4-course sensual, oral feast? These all cost nothing, but they’re priceless to your husband and your marriage.
8. Serve and Serve Alike.
This is also not a guaranteed benefit, but it certainly provides an opportunity for intimate generosity to be returned. To be clear: giving him oral is not a favor. You are not doing him a “solid” when you serve him in this way. It is your delight to honor and serve him in this intimate way. That being said, when you model such behavior it can be a great example for him to follow.
9. Unity Comes Through True Vulnerability.
Yep the gross feeling of vulnerability are necessary in the oral (and every other intimate) experience with your husband. One night stands and short-lived relationships can get away with half-hearted vulnerability in the bedroom. We all can pretend for a while. Eventually though, our true colors shine through and should in a life-long relationship. Oral sex is an intimate experience that will expose you both to each other. Both of you grow in trust, knowledge, and honesty as you learn to give amazing oral. It is a vital key to a unity that makes love last a lifetime.
10. It’s Better To Give Than Receive.
We hear this around the holidays all the time, but that doesn’t mean it’s not true! Jesus’ encouragement to do good to others does not stop with friends and family, and no matter what your faith background, being generous and treating others the way we’d like to be treated is pretty much a universal golden rule (see Acts 20:35). It also applies to the bedroom. When you fully engage and present your husband with a sensual feast, your own heart and capacity for love increases. He will be delighted by your generous advances. And you will feel more in love with him through it too. Consider how lucky you are to give him this amazingly satisfying gift. Enjoy!
Credit: Belah Rose
Portion of test was culled from delightyourmarriage.com